Things We Didn't Talk about When I Was a Girl: A Memoir (Hardcover)

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Part memoir and part true crime record, this book expands on the #MeToo discussion and the confusion and betrayal felt when a rapist was someone you knew, loved, and trusted. Vanasco wrote this memoir in real time as she was struck with the ideas behind it and worked up the courage to contact “Mark,” her high school best friend who she fell out of touch with after he raped her 14 years prior. The fair yet honest and relentless approach of the victim makes this an important story.

— Jordan


"Such a confrontation is bold, unsettling and timely. (Vanasco) wanted to find out how a person who hurts others talks to himself about his actions. If we are ever going to reduce sexual violence, it's a critically important question." --Laurie Halse Anderson in TIME

"It's hard to overstate the importance of this gorgeous, harrowing, heartbreaking book . . . Vanasco is whip-smart and tender, open and ruthless; she is the perfect guide through the minefield of her trauma, and ours." --Carmen Maria Machado in Bustle

A Most Anticipated Book of Fall at Time, NYLON, Bustle, Pacific Standard, The Millions, Publishers Weekly, Chicago Tribune and more

Product Details
ISBN: 9781947793453
ISBN-10: 1947793454
Publisher: Tin House Books
Publication Date: October 1st, 2019
Pages: 360
Language: English